Stick Figure Sunday returns!

Stick Figure Sunday returns!

Welcome back to Stick Figure Sunday!

The image is of a cloudy night and forested hills, with lots of little stick figures and a dog saying Awoooooo. Text at the bottom reads “Through the Halloween gloom, the stick figures returned!!!”

I have been thinking about endings and beginnings and restarts and projects, lately.

There are two big projects waiting to launch:

Relaunching An Unexpected Light in a new, easier-to-access format. This means reworking the existing content to break it into 7 smaller courses which can each be taken on their own, or stacked together for the full experience. It was already built in chapters, so this isn’t impossible, but it is going to require a few big blocks of time to sit and focus and rewrite and think through the logistics of costs and textbooks, and record some new video content.

Ending Possibilities in a good way. This means scheduling a series of community conversations and individual conversations to document what we did and learned together and what continues on despite the group formally ending. This will be a significant project and I’m going to give it at least six months from when it launches (which was meant to be in September, but that didn’t happen). Then the results of these conversations will be turned into a digital archive of our work together. My hope is that this will offer some encouragement and a sense of connecting to legacies of bi+ activism and community building for future bi+ activists.

A significant ending (which is also the beginning of a project), and a significant restarting. Both of these projects are important to me, and also really daunting.

I’m tired these days (aren’t we all?). I haven’t really recovered (will I ever?) from my health crashing hard in the spring. So, Stick Figure Sunday.

This project is small, playful, and the stakes are lower.

It’s also a reminder that I can come back to a project whenever I want to – even though it’s been years since the last Stick Figure Sunday, I can still come back to it. This means that my other projects, too, will be waiting for me when I return to them.

There is something hopeful about this.

Hopeful and also ghostly, of course! After all, the stick figures are rising from their slumber on this eeriest of days.

How we move along the exclusivity spectrum

How we move along the exclusivity spectrum

Has your experience of relationship exclusivity (monogamy and non-monogamy, but also types of exclusivity within either monogamous or non-monogamous relationships) shifted multiple times?

Would you like to talk about it?

I’m putting together the beginning of a narrative project on this topic, and will be scheduling one group conversation and up to 5 individual conversations between now and November 15.

Depending on how these conversations go and whether there is interest, I will be organizing a six-week narrative practice group where we can explore and re-story our experiences of changing relationship structures. This group will be scheduled for the new year.

My goal is to better understand how people experience fluidity in relationship structure preference over time. I think that within polyamorous spaces there is often the idea that there is an ideal (and linear) trajectory from monogamy to a specific form of polyamory.

I’m interested in talking about this, especially since I think for folks who have a different trajectory (such as returning to exclusivity, or having relationship structure preference expand and then contract, or preferring exclusivity in one area of a relationship even if there is non-exclusivity in another), there can be feelings of shame or failure attached to this.

If this sounds interesting to you, let me know! Email me at sostarselfcare @ gmail, and watch this space for the group conversation information.

Editing to add: The group conversation has been scheduled for November 7 from 11-12:30 mountain time, and will be hosted on Zoom. Contact me for registration info!