navigating our stories

narrative therapy, community care, collective action

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Our stories, ourselves.

What is the story of your life, and of yourself within your life?

What are your skills, values, and insider knowledges?

How have you stayed connected to your own strong stories?

Our stories shape how we see ourselves and the world around us, and can connect us to our own actions and choices in responding to the problems in our lives.

Narrative therapy is all about our stories – the ones we tell ourselves, and the ones we’ve been told; the ones we tell about other people, and the ones they tell about us. It’s about understanding where those stories come from, who they serve, and deciding whether we still want to give those stories weight in our lives. And it’s about reauthoring our stories, and strengthening our connections to legacies and histories of responding to hardship with skill and resilience.

A narrative conversation, either in a group setting or individually, can help us tell our stories in ways that honour our skills, values, knowledges and actions. For many marginalized communities, these skills, values, insider knowledges, and actions have been devalued and dismissed.

You already are the protagonist and the narrator of your own story, the expert in your own experience – nobody can give you that power, and nobody can take it away. But sometimes we lose connection to our deep self-storying abilities, and narrative therapy can help us get back in touch with that knowledge.

Narrative Therapy

Coaching

In 2018, I completed the Master of Narrative Therapy and Community Work degree at the Dulwich Centre and the University of Melbourne, and I am excited to offer narrative therapy to people in Calgary and online. We can work together one-on-one, or in a group setting. My facilitation style is collaborative and flexible – we can co-create a plan that will help you navigate, understand, and re-author your story in a way that feels right for you.

Self-Care Resources

Are you looking for immediate and accessible help? You’ll find resources here. This category will be growing over the next year as I complete projects. These free resources are made possible by my patrons on Patreon and I appreciate it so much.

Writing in the Margins Workshops

Writing in the Margins has been on hiatus while I completed my Master of Narrative Therapy and Community Work degree at the Dulwich Centre and the University of Melbourne. Now that I’ve completed this degree, watch this space for a new writing group launching in September, 2019!

Editing

Have you written something amazing? I can edit your fiction, creative non-fiction, academic paper, dissertation, or book. I bring a gentle and insightful editing voice, and a keen eye for detail. I read for grammar and style, of course, but what I’m best at is reading for intersectionality, accessibility, and queer and feminist politics.

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7 days ago

Tiffany Sostar

I put together a small online course for those of us who might have a hard time with Father’s Day.

It’s a 3 day, at your own pace, online course starting June 19 and ending June 21.

For folks experiencing grief, disconnection, and/or distance, I hope it offers a little bit of comfort and community.

There’s a discord space for sharing and we’ll have one optional video chat during the course, but it is mostly just at your own pace.

The cost is $25.

Send me a message or email to enroll.
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I put together a small online course for those of us who might have a hard time with Father’s Day. 

It’s a 3 day, at your own pace, online course starting June 19 and ending June 21. 

For folks experiencing grief, disconnection, and/or distance, I hope it offers a little bit of comfort and community. 

There’s a discord space for sharing and we’ll have one optional video chat during the course, but it is mostly just at your own pace. 

The cost is $25.

Send me a message or email to enroll.

4 weeks ago

Tiffany Sostar

Oof.

Those mornings when the weight of everything you haven't and probably won't accomplish sits on your chest like a mountain.

I imagine there is a way to wiggle out from under this. Must be. Surely.

But then sometimes I think that the way my lungs are always so unhappy is maybe because this mountain never actually leaves my chest.

(I have cancelled a lot of things for the summer to make some space for these headaches and to get my feet back under me, and even though I do know that I am not valued solely on the basis of my productivity, still, it does feel like a failure. And a kind of failure that summons every other memory of failure and flicker of former hopes. All the lives I've failed to live.)

Anyway.

If you are also under a mountain with me, how are you getting through?

What are you holding onto about yourself that is true even though there are all these lives you haven't lived?

What have you done that is worthy?

Who have you helped?

Who has helped you?

What have you learned that you consider precious knowledge?

What hopes for yourself have you held onto despite disappointments?

Sometimes these questions feel soothing, and I can remember that I have done good things in my life. Other times they are like salt.

When they are like salt, I sometimes find it helpful to take a smaller snip of my life and wonder about, what am I feeling right now?

Who knows I am feeling this? (Now all of you. Thank you. <3)

Who else has ever felt this, or something like this?

Why does it matter that I keep going despite this feeling?

And then other times, there is no question that helps, and I just need to be in it. That's the worst. But also, it never lasts forever.

Anyway.

I am probably not the only person under a mountain today, so here are some little offerings from me under my mountain, to you, if you're under your mountain, too.
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