navigating our stories

narrative therapy, community care, collective action

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Our stories, ourselves.

What is the story of your life, and of yourself within your life?

What are your skills, values, and insider knowledges?

How have you stayed connected to your own strong stories?

Our stories shape how we see ourselves and the world around us, and can connect us to our own actions and choices in responding to the problems in our lives.

Narrative therapy is all about our stories – the ones we tell ourselves, and the ones we’ve been told; the ones we tell about other people, and the ones they tell about us. It’s about understanding where those stories come from, who they serve, and deciding whether we still want to give those stories weight in our lives. And it’s about reauthoring our stories, and strengthening our connections to legacies and histories of responding to hardship with skill and resilience.

A narrative conversation, either in a group setting or individually, can help us tell our stories in ways that honour our skills, values, knowledges and actions. For many marginalized communities, these skills, values, insider knowledges, and actions have been devalued and dismissed.

You already are the protagonist and the narrator of your own story, the expert in your own experience – nobody can give you that power, and nobody can take it away. But sometimes we lose connection to our deep self-storying abilities, and narrative therapy can help us get back in touch with that knowledge.

Narrative Therapy

Coaching

In 2018, I completed the Master of Narrative Therapy and Community Work degree at the Dulwich Centre and the University of Melbourne, and I am excited to offer narrative therapy to people in Calgary and online. We can work together one-on-one, or in a group setting. My facilitation style is collaborative and flexible – we can co-create a plan that will help you navigate, understand, and re-author your story in a way that feels right for you.

Self-Care Resources

Are you looking for immediate and accessible help? You’ll find resources here. This category will be growing over the next year as I complete projects. These free resources are made possible by my patrons on Patreon and I appreciate it so much.

Writing in the Margins Workshops

Writing in the Margins has been on hiatus while I completed my Master of Narrative Therapy and Community Work degree at the Dulwich Centre and the University of Melbourne. Now that I’ve completed this degree, watch this space for a new writing group launching in September, 2019!

Editing

Have you written something amazing? I can edit your fiction, creative non-fiction, academic paper, dissertation, or book. I bring a gentle and insightful editing voice, and a keen eye for detail. I read for grammar and style, of course, but what I’m best at is reading for intersectionality, accessibility, and queer and feminist politics.

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7 months ago

Tiffany Sostar

In January, February, and March of 2024, I will be trialling a new peer group offering for narrative therapy practitioners.

This new group will run on the first Friday of each month, and is a re-imagining of the ‘narrative peer consultation’ group that ran consistently from spring 2020-summer 2023. If there is interest in this, we’ll continue!

Instead of the 90-minute consultation format, this revised event will include:

a 60-minute consultation group, where participants are welcome to bring a topic they’re interested in, and I will have a topic prepared as well, and we’ll discuss whatever the group is interested in,
a 15-minute break,
a 60-minute practice session, and
a 15-minute wrap-up and reflection.

The practice session is the big change! And I’m really excited about it – I’ve now had the opportunity to both participate in and facilitate live interviewing practice sessions, and it can be really helpful to do narrative work in this way – to practice the questions, figure out how to recognize openings to alternate stories, hear how other people phrase questions, and experience being on the receiving end of questions. I appreciate how live practice has something to offer practitioners at any level of comfort and familiarity with narrative practice.

I decided to add this to the structure for the group because there are folks I have connected with recently who are newer to narrative practice and might want additional practical support, and there are other folks who have expressed an interest in reconnecting with narrative ways of having conversations – the actual maps of narrative questions, becoming more confident in how to ask narrative questions, etc.

The practice session will include live narrative interviewing, and I will have a few narrative question ‘maps’ available, or participants can practice particular types of narrative conversation, such as re-membering, absent but implicit, or freeform. This is an opportunity for practitioners at any level of experience to either practice narrative questions, experience narrative conversations as the person being interviewed, or witness a narrative conversation.

It is a total time commitment of 2.5 hours.

Participation requires registration ahead of time, and there is a $20-50 sliding scale fee for this event. (If you support the patreon, you’re covered!)

These events will run as long as there are at least 5 participants registered 48 hours before the event runs. If there are not enough participants registered at that point, I’ll cancel the event.

The three scheduled conversations are on the first Friday (first Saturday in Australia) of January, February, and March – Jan 5, Feb 2, and Mar 1.

The schedule is Friday, 3 pm-4 pm mountain time for the consultation group (this is Saturday, 8:30-9:30 am Adelaide); 4:15-5:15 pm practice group (9:45-10:45 am Adelaide), then 15 minutes for reflections and wrap up.

You can register here - us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUsdOuoqTouHtbVDSk5tJNuU50koqZtS-RP#/registration

Note that you’ll need to register for each month’s event separately.
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In January, February, and March of 2024, I will be trialling a new peer group offering for narrative therapy practitioners.

This new group will run on the first Friday of each month, and is a re-imagining of the ‘narrative peer consultation’ group that ran consistently from spring 2020-summer 2023. If there is interest in this, we’ll continue!

Instead of the 90-minute consultation format, this revised event will include:

    a 60-minute consultation group, where participants are welcome to bring a topic they’re interested in, and I will have a topic prepared as well, and we’ll discuss whatever the group is interested in,
    a 15-minute break,
    a 60-minute practice session, and
    a 15-minute wrap-up and reflection.

The practice session is the big change! And I’m really excited about it – I’ve now had the opportunity to both participate in and facilitate live interviewing practice sessions, and it can be really helpful to do narrative work in this way – to practice the questions, figure out how to recognize openings to alternate stories, hear how other people phrase questions, and experience being on the receiving end of questions. I appreciate how live practice has something to offer practitioners at any level of comfort and familiarity with narrative practice.

I decided to add this to the structure for the group because there are folks I have connected with recently who are newer to narrative practice and might want additional practical support, and there are other folks who have expressed an interest in reconnecting with narrative ways of having conversations – the actual maps of narrative questions, becoming more confident in how to ask narrative questions, etc.

The practice session will include live narrative interviewing, and I will have a few narrative question ‘maps’ available, or participants can practice particular types of narrative conversation, such as re-membering, absent but implicit, or freeform. This is an opportunity for practitioners at any level of experience to either practice narrative questions, experience narrative conversations as the person being interviewed, or witness a narrative conversation.

It is a total time commitment of 2.5 hours.

Participation requires registration ahead of time, and there is a $20-50 sliding scale fee for this event. (If you support the patreon, you’re covered!)

These events will run as long as there are at least 5 participants registered 48 hours before the event runs. If there are not enough participants registered at that point, I’ll cancel the event.

The three scheduled conversations are on the first Friday (first Saturday in Australia) of January, February, and March – Jan 5, Feb 2, and Mar 1.

The schedule is Friday, 3 pm-4 pm mountain time for the consultation group (this is Saturday, 8:30-9:30 am Adelaide); 4:15-5:15 pm practice group (9:45-10:45 am Adelaide), then 15 minutes for reflections and wrap up.

You can register here - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUsdOuoqTouHtbVDSk5tJNuU50koqZtS-RP#/registration

Note that you’ll need to register for each month’s event separately.

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Our first event was lovely, and we've decided to move the time back an hour to make it a bit easier for folks in Australia.

7 months ago

Tiffany Sostar

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