navigating our stories

narrative therapy, community care, collective action

Mug, books, and journal

Our stories, ourselves.

What is the story of your life, and of yourself within your life?

What are your skills, values, and insider knowledges?

How have you stayed connected to your own strong stories?

Our stories shape how we see ourselves and the world around us, and can connect us to our own actions and choices in responding to the problems in our lives.

Narrative therapy is all about our stories – the ones we tell ourselves, and the ones we’ve been told; the ones we tell about other people, and the ones they tell about us. It’s about understanding where those stories come from, who they serve, and deciding whether we still want to give those stories weight in our lives. And it’s about reauthoring our stories, and strengthening our connections to legacies and histories of responding to hardship with skill and resilience.

A narrative conversation, either in a group setting or individually, can help us tell our stories in ways that honour our skills, values, knowledges and actions. For many marginalized communities, these skills, values, insider knowledges, and actions have been devalued and dismissed.

You already are the protagonist and the narrator of your own story, the expert in your own experience – nobody can give you that power, and nobody can take it away. But sometimes we lose connection to our deep self-storying abilities, and narrative therapy can help us get back in touch with that knowledge.

Narrative Therapy

Coaching

In 2018, I completed the Master of Narrative Therapy and Community Work degree at the Dulwich Centre and the University of Melbourne, and I am excited to offer narrative therapy to people in Calgary and online. We can work together one-on-one, or in a group setting. My facilitation style is collaborative and flexible – we can co-create a plan that will help you navigate, understand, and re-author your story in a way that feels right for you.

Self-Care Resources

Are you looking for immediate and accessible help? You’ll find resources here. This category will be growing over the next year as I complete projects. These free resources are made possible by my patrons on Patreon and I appreciate it so much.

Writing in the Margins Workshops

Writing in the Margins has been on hiatus while I completed my Master of Narrative Therapy and Community Work degree at the Dulwich Centre and the University of Melbourne. Now that I’ve completed this degree, watch this space for a new writing group launching in September, 2019!

Editing

Have you written something amazing? I can edit your fiction, creative non-fiction, academic paper, dissertation, or book. I bring a gentle and insightful editing voice, and a keen eye for detail. I read for grammar and style, of course, but what I’m best at is reading for intersectionality, accessibility, and queer and feminist politics.

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3 days ago

Tiffany Sostar

This is for the folks who are having a hard time today - deep in the despair or the overwhelm, unsure how to move forward.

(By which I mean, this is for me.)

What is the smallest action of care you can extend to yourself right now?

Small like a glass of water.

Small like your hand on your chest for just three breaths. Just three breaths - not three deep breaths, not three minutes of breathing, just three of whatever kind of breath is available to you right now.

Small like ungluing your tongue from the roof of your mouth.

Small like a single text to a friend, "sending you love", to remind yourself that you still have connections even when you feel so disconnected, to remind yourself that you still love even when you feel like you are nothing but a to-do list in a trenchcoat.

Small like naming the feeling, "I am sad. I am tired. I am overwhelmed. I feel hopeless. I feel like nothing matters. I feel like my work is meaningless." And then reminding yourself that feelings are just feelings. Real and valid and meaningful but also, not always accurate, and never permanent.

Small like telling yourself a true thing. That you are alive. That there are things in this world that you care about. That you just need to do what is possible, and that will be enough.

It is hard, beloveds.

It is such a hard time and it keeps being hard, it keeps feeling worse, it keeps getting worse.

Do the smallest thing.

One breath.

One moment with your eyes closed.

One sip of water.

One slight shift in your position to make your hips more comfortable.

One tiny reminder of what you care for, what you value, what you hope and dream.

Just the smallest, smallest thing.

You are alive.

I am glad to be sharing this hard year with you.
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6 days ago

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