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March Possibilities Meeting: Self-Care for Queer Geeks

March Possibilities Meeting: Self-Care for Queer Geeks

March 20, 2018, 6:30pm - March 20, 2018, 8:30pm

LOFT 112
Loft 112, 535 8 Avenue SE
Calgary, AB  T2G 5S9 Map

In March, you'll be talking about self-care for queer geeks.

I say "you" rather than "we" because I (Tiffany) will be in Australia for an Advanced Narrative Practice teaching block, and Scott Foster, queer geek extraordinaire, will be facilitating the discussion.

What does queerness have to do with geekdom? Plenty.

For example, two topics are:

Gaming. Where do you find queer representation in games (board games, video games, tabletop RPGs)? How can you support queer creators? How can you help create safe gaming spaces for queer players?

Fandoms. What is the current state of queer representation in the various sci fi and fantasy fandoms? What's going well, and what needs work? What creators can we support, and how can we best support them?

And that's just the beginning!

So join Scott for a conversation about self-care, queerness, and geekdom, and then everybody take copious notes and send me your post-event insights so I can generate our monthly resource!

(And for those of you waiting on February's Self-Care in Queer Relationships resource - it's on the way! Sorry I'm slow. Starting grad school has slowed my productivity down.)

You can see the first of our collective documents here, extending our November discussion about queerness and physical self-care -

And the second, about queerness and holiday self-care, here -

And the third, winter self-care for weary queers, here -

Our March meeting will be on March 20, from 6:30-8:30 PM at Loft 112. There will be conversation, geekery, and, most importantly, community.

We also have a set time, date, and location for our next six months of Possibilities events - you'll find us on the third Tuesday of each month, from 6:30-8:30, at Loft 112. There is a small fee associated with renting this space, and you can support the event by either donating at the event or becoming a Patreon supporter.

We have a new focus on self-care and self-storying for the bi+ community (bisexual, pansexual, and asexual, with an intentional focus on trans inclusion), and a new framework for sustainability (you can now support this work by backing the Patreon at

There is no cost to attend.

This is an intentionally queer, feminist, anti-oppressive space. The discussion will be open, as they always were, to all genders and orientations, as well as all abilities, educational levels, classes, body types, ethnicities - basically, if you're a person, you're welcome!

It is important to note that Possibilities Calgary is a community discussion group and not a dating group.
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Self-Care Salon: Professionals on the Margins

Self-Care Salon: Professionals on the Margins

April 8, 2018, 10:30am - April 8, 2018, 12:30pm

LOFT 112
Loft 112, 535 8 Avenue SE
Calgary, AB  T2G 5S9 Map

Welcome to the Self-Care Salon! These are a mostly-monthly discussion, workshop, and community-building event, each focusing on a specific aspect of self-care.

The April salon is all about self-care for professionals on the margins. Queer lawyers, Indigenous doctors and midwives, Black professors, disabled accountants - when you've built a career in a field that is still too-often perceived to be the domain of straight, white, cisgender, normatively abled, neurotypical, middle-class, English-speaking, settler men, it comes with challenges.

These challenges are both internal to the educational systems that open the doors to these professional careers, and to the industries within which we practice these careers, and also external, in our clients and the public perception of what a "professional" looks and sounds like.

At the April salon, we'll talk about issues like:

- Establishing self-validating routines to counter the invalidation that often comes with professional careers.
- Navigating mental health challenges that result from the intense stress and pressure of the hours demanded in many professional careers.
- Doing advocacy within professional settings.
- Balancing our own personal needs and boundaries with our sense of responsibility to the marginalized communities we come from, while going to work every day in environments that are often hostile.
- Doing sustainable educational labour for our colleagues and within our industries.

My co-facilitator, Jonathan Griffith, is an out bisexual and polyamorous family law lawyer, living and practicing with white settler privilege on Treaty 7 land in Calgary, Alberta. He has spent his career pushing for more inclusive practices, teaching 101 workshops to his own and other firms, developing resources to help lawyers and mediators become culturally competent when working with queer and trans clients, and recently completed his LLM.

** This workshop will include a Self-Care for Professionals on the Margins workbook, written specifically for this workshop by Tiffany and Jonathan. You can register by emailing The workshop will also include brunch!! The cost of the workshop is $50, with sliding scale available. **

Wondering what this is all about?

Each month, we'll meet for tea and snacks and discussion - an opportunity to take a deep dive into a specific self-care topic, with space for your questions and insights.

Each self-care salon will include a short presentation by a community expert - someone who can speak from their own experience about a self-care related topic. "Expertise" in this context is a broad and inclusive word, not limited to folks with letters after their names or professional designations, and recognizing the expertise that we each gain over the course of our lives. If you're interested in presenting, get in touch!

These workshops are intended to be as accessible as possible. The space is wheelchair accessible (through the back door), with a separate space for folks who are experiencing sensory overwhelm to chill out, and gluten-free and vegan snack options.

The cost for the workshop is $50, with sliding scale available. Nobody will be turned away for financial reasons.

Sustainable and ethical self-care is not possible without intentional and compassionate community care, and the Indigenous communities whose land we live on are often forgotten. These workshops take place on Treaty 7 land, and the traditional territories of the Blackfoot, Siksika, Piikuni, Kainai, Tsuutina, and Stoney Nakoda First Nations, including Chiniki, Bearspaw, and Wesley First Nation. This land is also home to M├ętis Nation of Alberta, Region 3.

10% of the proceeds from the workshop will be given to the Awo Taan Healing Lodge.
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