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December Possibilities Meeting
In December we'll be talking about queerness and holiday self-care.
Regardless of what you celebrate, if you celebrate any of the many seasonal celebrations that happen in December, it can be fraught. How do you handle family events, particularly if your family either doesn't know or doesn't accept your identity (or identities, plural - things get even more complicated and potentially fraught for folks who are queer *and* trans, or queer and atheist, queer and other-faith, queer and any number of other identities!)
Even if family isn't an issue, the holiday season can be overwhelming. Many of us experience increased depression and anxiety at this time of year. Those of us who have experienced a loss in the last year (of a person, a relationship, a job, or something else) can feel that loss more acutely during the holiday season.
It's a time that often calls for extra self-care, and often makes acting on that call extremely difficult. Spend money on yourself? Spend time on yourself? Set and maintain boundaries?! Yikes!
Join us for a discussion about queerness and holiday self-care. This discussion will become the foundation of a downloadable resource on the topic of queerness and holiday self-care (with the consent of discussion participants - no names or identifying information will be shared without your consent, and you can choose to have your stories kept out of the document). You can see the first of these collective documents here, extending our November discussion about queerness and physical self-care - tiffanysostar.com/queerness-and-physical-self-care-resource/
Our December meeting will be on December 19, from 6:30-8:30 PM at Loft 112. There will be snacks (thanks to the generous donation of one of our community members!), conversation, and, most importantly, community.
We also have a set time, date, and location for our next six months of Possibilities events - you'll find us on the third Tuesday of each month, from 6:30-8:30, at Loft 112. There is a small fee associated with renting this space, and you can support the event by either donating at the event or becoming a Patreon supporter.
We have a new focus on self-care and self-storying for the b+ community (bisexual, pansexual, and asexual, with an intentional focus on trans inclusion), and a new framework for sustainability (you can now support this work by backing the Patreon at www.patreon.com/sostarselfcare).
There is no cost to attend.
This is an intentionally queer, feminist, anti-oppressive space. The discussion will be open, as they always were, to all genders and orientations, as well as all abilities, educational levels, classes, body types, ethnicities - basically, if you're a person, you're welcome!
It is important to note that Possibilities Calgary is a community discussion group and not a dating group.... See MoreSee Less
Self-Care Salon: Bodies, Food, and Health
Welcome to the Self-Care Salon!
The January salon will challenge the current discourse on weight, bodies and health, and seek to redefine what it really means to be "healthy".
According to Statistic Brain, nearly 1 in 3 people make a weight-related New Year's resolution. Given our fatphobic and weight-shaming culture, it's easy to imagine that many of these resolutions are rooted in shame, fear, internalized narratives about what kind of bodies are good or acceptable bodies.
This discussion will approach the topics of weight, bodies, and health from a size-inclusive and explicitly anti-diet position. This is both because of the research that indicates that mainstream approaches to weight loss are counterproductive and harmful (the vast majority—some studies cite up to 95%—of attempts at weight loss do not result in weight loss, that dieting increases the risk of disordered eating and that most people end up at a higher weight than they started), and also because the self-care salon is an intentionally anti-oppressive space. All bodies are good bodies, and all bodies are welcome in this space.
This discussion will touch on issues of fatphobia, medicalized and pathologized fat bodies, disordered eating, and other potentially triggering topics.
Vincci is a Registered Dietician who has moved from working within the mainstream model of health, to challenging those ideas, and emerging into her new nutritional ethic after encountering the Health At Every Size movement and confronting the trauma and internalized narratives of shame and fear in her clients. She is now an advocate for intuitive eating, radical food acceptance, and placing individuals - rather than medical models - as the experts in their own lives and needs.
When we consider the hurt, harm, trauma, and distress caused by the diet industry and our society's unrealistic standards of "health" (let alone beauty!), can we really say that losing weight is self-care or self-improvement? Let's talk about it!
Please note that any discussion of our own bodies and experiences is welcome, but we will not engage in pathologizing or judging other bodies or experiences during this discussion. This includes passing judgement on other people's choices to have surgery, to diet, to eat in ways that we consider unhealthy (for whatever reason), or to otherwise engage in weight-related behaviours. We are each living within the same fatphobic, diet-centric, food-shaming culture, and we are each doing the best that we can with the resources, skills, and narratives available to us.
Hopefully, this discussion will present us with new resources, skills, and narratives to take into the new year and beyond!
Wondering what this is all about?
Each month, we'll meet for tea and snacks and discussion - an opportunity to take a deep dive into a specific self-care topic, with space for your questions and insights.
Each self-care salon will include a short presentation by a community expert - someone who can speak from their own experience about a self-care related topic. "Expertise" in this context is a broad and inclusive word, not limited to folks with letters after their names or professional designations, and recognizing the expertise that we each gain over the course of our lives. If you're interested in presenting, get in touch!
These workshops are intended to be as accessible as possible. The space is wheelchair accessible (through the back door), with a separate space for folks who are experiencing sensory overwhelm to chill out, and gluten-free and vegan snack options.
The cost for the workshop is $50 or pay-what-you-want. Nobody will be turned away for financial reasons. The first two workshops will be offered at a discount, because the holiday season is often a time of financial strain even for those of us who are not dealing with economic insecurity.
Sustainable and ethical self-care is not possible without intentional and compassionate community care, and the Indigenous communities whose land we live on are often forgotten. These workshops take place on Treaty 7 land, and the traditional territories of the Blackfoot, Siksika, Piikuni, Kainai, Tsuutina, and Stoney Nakoda First Nations, including Chiniki, Bearspaw, and Wesley First Nation. This land is also home to Métis Nation of Alberta, Region 3.
10% of the proceeds from the December workshop will be given to the Awo Taan Healing Lodge. www.awotaan.org/... See MoreSee Less