navigating our stories

narrative therapy, community care, collective action

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Our stories, ourselves.

What is the story of your life, and of yourself within your life?

What are your skills, values, and insider knowledges?

How have you stayed connected to your own strong stories?

Our stories shape how we see ourselves and the world around us, and can connect us to our own actions and choices in responding to the problems in our lives.

Narrative therapy is all about our stories – the ones we tell ourselves, and the ones we’ve been told; the ones we tell about other people, and the ones they tell about us. It’s about understanding where those stories come from, who they serve, and deciding whether we still want to give those stories weight in our lives. And it’s about reauthoring our stories, and strengthening our connections to legacies and histories of responding to hardship with skill and resilience.

A narrative conversation, either in a group setting or individually, can help us tell our stories in ways that honour our skills, values, knowledges and actions. For many marginalized communities, these skills, values, insider knowledges, and actions have been devalued and dismissed.

You already are the protagonist and the narrator of your own story, the expert in your own experience – nobody can give you that power, and nobody can take it away. But sometimes we lose connection to our deep self-storying abilities, and narrative therapy can help us get back in touch with that knowledge.

Narrative Therapy

Coaching

In 2018, I completed the Master of Narrative Therapy and Community Work degree at the Dulwich Centre and the University of Melbourne, and I am excited to offer narrative therapy to people in Calgary and online. We can work together one-on-one, or in a group setting. My facilitation style is collaborative and flexible – we can co-create a plan that will help you navigate, understand, and re-author your story in a way that feels right for you.

Self-Care Resources

Are you looking for immediate and accessible help? You’ll find resources here. This category will be growing over the next year as I complete projects. These free resources are made possible by my patrons on Patreon and I appreciate it so much.

Writing in the Margins Workshops

Writing in the Margins has been on hiatus while I completed my Master of Narrative Therapy and Community Work degree at the Dulwich Centre and the University of Melbourne. Now that I’ve completed this degree, watch this space for a new writing group launching in September, 2019!

Editing

Have you written something amazing? I can edit your fiction, creative non-fiction, academic paper, dissertation, or book. I bring a gentle and insightful editing voice, and a keen eye for detail. I read for grammar and style, of course, but what I’m best at is reading for intersectionality, accessibility, and queer and feminist politics.

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9 hours ago

Tiffany Sostar

My mom and I are on the bus to Edmonton! I’m speaking at a conference about solidarity, and how we care for each other and ourselves.

Vikki Reynolds, in the intro to Justice-Doing at the Intersections of Power, writes, ‘I believe our work requires us, no matter what our professional qualifications or job titles, to create relationships of dignity and respect across differences of privilege to meet people where they are at in the world. It is the task of the worker to build a bridge to meet the person.’

Any of us who work in areas where we have power and our work is meant to offer support - teachers, nurses, doctors, dieticians, social workers, mental health professionals of all types, and so many others - have a task of building bridges to the people we are meant to be supporting. We should be working towards justice in our work. We should be doing the work of justice.

And this is not easy! We will fuck it up. We will get it wrong and need to learn how to welcome accountability without falling into shame and a feeling of failure. We will have to learn how to listen, robustly and intentionally and without interjecting, which can be a difficult position to be in when we are already in an ‘expert’ or ‘professional’ role.

We have to extend dignity and respect in every direction in order to learn how to bring justice-doing into our work. We need to listen and let people who are more or differently marginalized than we are ourselves, teach us what we don’t know. Even if that means (especially if that means) recognizing and grappling with how we have been complicit in systems of harm.

I’m also going to be talking about how birth workers can support trans and non-binary folks, as an example of an opportunity to practice solidarity and care, and to build bridges of dignity and respect.

I’m pretty excited! And also pretty nervous!
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My mom and I are on the bus to Edmonton! I’m speaking at a conference about solidarity, and how we care for each other and ourselves. 

Vikki Reynolds, in the intro to Justice-Doing at the Intersections of Power, writes, ‘I believe our work requires us, no matter what our professional qualifications or job titles, to create relationships of dignity and respect across differences of privilege to meet people where they are at in the world. It is the task of the worker to build a bridge to meet the person.’

Any of us who work in areas where we have power and our work is meant to offer support - teachers, nurses, doctors, dieticians, social workers, mental health professionals of all types, and so many others - have a task of building bridges to the people we are meant to be supporting. We should be working towards justice in our work. We should be doing the work of justice. 

And this is not easy! We will fuck it up. We will get it wrong and need to learn how to welcome accountability without falling into shame and a feeling of failure. We will have to learn how to listen, robustly and intentionally and without interjecting, which can be a difficult position to be in when we are already in an ‘expert’ or ‘professional’ role. 

We have to extend dignity and respect in every direction in order to learn how to bring justice-doing into our work. We need to listen and let people who are more or differently marginalized than we are ourselves, teach us what we don’t know. Even if that means (especially if that means) recognizing and grappling with how we have been complicit in systems of harm. 

I’m also going to be talking about how birth workers can support trans and non-binary folks, as an example of an opportunity to practice solidarity and care, and to build bridges of dignity and respect. 

I’m pretty excited! And also pretty nervous!

 

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Saw Vikki speak last week at Recovery Capital and was blown away. I would have gotten on stilts for her standing ovation if I’d had any. She was so unflinchingly honest about structural injustice.

Good luck!

11 hours ago

Tiffany Sostar

This is one of the issues that comes up frequently in my narrative therapy work. A lot of us are caring, acting, thinking. We are not alone in this work. ... See MoreSee Less

This is one of the issues that comes up frequently in my narrative therapy work. A lot of us are caring, acting, thinking. We are not alone in this work.
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Know your stories, know yourself.