navigating our stories

narrative therapy, community care, collective action

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Our stories, ourselves.

What is the story of your life, and of yourself within your life?

What are your skills, values, and insider knowledges?

How have you stayed connected to your own strong stories?

Our stories shape how we see ourselves and the world around us, and can connect us to our own actions and choices in responding to the problems in our lives.

Narrative therapy is all about our stories – the ones we tell ourselves, and the ones we’ve been told; the ones we tell about other people, and the ones they tell about us. It’s about understanding where those stories come from, who they serve, and deciding whether we still want to give those stories weight in our lives. And it’s about reauthoring our stories, and strengthening our connections to legacies and histories of responding to hardship with skill and resilience.

A narrative conversation, either in a group setting or individually, can help us tell our stories in ways that honour our skills, values, knowledges and actions. For many marginalized communities, these skills, values, insider knowledges, and actions have been devalued and dismissed.

You already are the protagonist and the narrator of your own story, the expert in your own experience – nobody can give you that power, and nobody can take it away. But sometimes we lose connection to our deep self-storying abilities, and narrative therapy can help us get back in touch with that knowledge.

Narrative Therapy


In 2018, I completed the Master of Narrative Therapy and Community Work degree at the Dulwich Centre and the University of Melbourne, and I am excited to offer narrative therapy to people in Calgary and online. We can work together one-on-one, or in a group setting. My facilitation style is collaborative and flexible – we can co-create a plan that will help you navigate, understand, and re-author your story in a way that feels right for you.

Self-Care Resources

Are you looking for immediate and accessible help? You’ll find resources here. This category will be growing over the next year as I complete projects. These free resources are made possible by my patrons on Patreon and I appreciate it so much.

Writing in the Margins Workshops

Writing in the Margins has been on hiatus while I completed my Master of Narrative Therapy and Community Work degree at the Dulwich Centre and the University of Melbourne. Now that I’ve completed this degree, watch this space for a new writing group launching in September, 2019!


Have you written something amazing? I can edit your fiction, creative non-fiction, academic paper, dissertation, or book. I bring a gentle and insightful editing voice, and a keen eye for detail. I read for grammar and style, of course, but what I’m best at is reading for intersectionality, accessibility, and queer and feminist politics.

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2 weeks ago

Tiffany Sostar

What is it about today that has landed so heavily on so many members of my community, and my own heart?

I don't know.

The pandemic, probably.

The long weekend that is like every other weekend in our various levels of isolation.

The uncertainty.

The doubt.

The fear.

The bubbling anger, a salty potion of rage at witnessing injustice, fear at an uncertain future, existential dread and despair as we experience ourselves in this new context.

It's a lot.

I have no solutions, only solidarity. I am in it, too.

Feeling like a failure, like a mess, like a disappointment. Yeet me into the sun already, geez.

So, chickadees. If you relate.

Where is this sitting in your body?

Can you tend to that part of your body? Move or stretch or hydrate or nourish or wash or brush or even just feel. Just feel that curling knot of whatever it is. Witness it.

What does this feeling have to tell you?

What does it say about what you care about, what you cherish, what you hold onto?

What are the histories of those things you are caring about, cherishing, holding onto?

Who else is feeling something similar, or might have felt something similar, or might know that you are feeling this way?

Can you send a thread of connection to them, even if that thread never weaves itself into a text or a letter or a phone call, even just having the thought of them?

What else might you do, in this moment? How might you sit with these feelings?

And if you are feeling some other kind of way, what is that like?
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